The ad was for women's underwear with padding on its posterior, which was meant to give the impression the young lady was -- shall we say -- working with a little bit more than what her momma gave her. The device was called the "Booty Pop."
Just a few weeks prior to that I saw Chris Rock's documentary "Good Hair," which was about the trials and limits some black women experience in pursuit of a "beautiful" head of hair. Some women, and/or their significant others, pay thousands of dollars (yes that's with three zeros) to have hair braided, glued or sewn in which, at some point, belonged to a Hindu pilgrim at least three thousand miles away. Others apply chemicals to their scalp that can completely disintegrate an aluminum can.Uuuhh, why? No seriously, why is it that some women feel that their bust line (and I suppose their booty line?) have to be a certain measure? Or why their hair has to be a certain length (and straightness -- sistas). For that matter, why must a woman's eyes be a certain color, why must she stand within a certain height, and (yes I'm going there) why must she weigh a certain amount.
Now I know the usual blame game, "we do these things because that's what men want." Really? Just when in the hell did that survey get passed around in class? I must have been absent that day. When I sit back and think about it I've got one biological brother, three cousins and five best friends -- all of which I consider to be my brothers -- and between the ten of us you get at least ten different ideas on what exactly is attractive in a woman. One of my brothers has a thing for big, I mean REALLY big women. Another one has a habit of dating really mean women, I'm talkin' rattlesnake mean.
I've even managed to get myself romantically entangled with very different types of women. From braids to dreads to perms; short to tall (I had a thing for this girl from the basketball team once. 6'3" and gorgeous.); light skin, dark skin, black, white, latin and asian; skinny and thick around the middle -- I've managed to date or try to date them all. I guess what I'm trying to say is -- we men really don't care in general, we just want you.
That's what I think anyway, but I want to know what you think? Please take a moment and comment.
Yeah, I go for less horse hair and less makeup because I want a woman that thinks she is beautiful the way God made her. That confidence is very sexy. And if I ever encounter a woman with a Booty Pop, she would be summarily dissed and dismissed just as quickly.
ReplyDeleteJames B.
The "Real You" problem does not exist because women are trying to look like what they think men want. This problem exists because too many women are chasing after men. They reshape the "Real You" to better their chances of getting the attention of the guy(s) they are after.
ReplyDeleteThe "Real You" issue also relates to the "Wow" factor. Some females can never understand why some women get all the attention from men while other women are continuously ignored by the same group of males. The female with all of the attention is no better than the next female, she just happens to come across more men who are attracted to what she looks like when she steps out of the house.
If you find out the female you are with is an owner of the "Booty Pop", take it as a compliment. Getting your attention was so important to her that she was willing to spend $19.99 to put some pads in her pants.
The real question, do you care enough to change the "Real You" to get her attention?